What stops us from having the conversations that need to be had? I reckon it's FEAR. Fear of rejection. Fear of 'what will they think of me?' 'what will happen if I say what I need to say?' Tough conversations are tough to have. My coach says that growth comes when I am uncomfortable. Well .... bugger me dead, I'm bloody uncomfortable lately. I'm so far out of my comfort zone it's just not funny. Don't like it one little bit. I made a commitment today to have the conversation. I spoke with my coach first. I noticed myself trying to weasel out of it. Yeah, I did have a crack at that. I could feel my heart rate speed up as if I'd been in a spin class for 45 minutes. Perspiration appeared on my face and I felt sick. And then I made the call anyway. With a strong intention to be calm, honest and generous while making a stand for myself and living according to my values, I made the call. No-one died. I rinsed and repeated and made another call that I had been avoiding. So what on earth was I afraid of? My great fear was around making a stand for myself and claiming my value. Afraid to stand up for me. Afraid to assert myself for myself. See I can get very assertive for a cause and for others. At times, I have my training wheels on around doing this for myself. Being passive can look like being in denial and not making the call. It allows others to walk all over you. Being aggressive is at the other end of the scale. It's about getting angry, defensive, raising your voice and not listening to others. Assertive behaviour falls somewhere in the middle. Assertive behaviour honours everyone. It's taking the high road. So, I ruffled some feathers today while I preened my own. I'm gaining some muscle here. I'll do it again and gain more strength. It's a process. I'm not done yet. Will let you know when I get this one nailed! Empowering leaders with honest, authentic communication, one day at a time.