“Show me, don’t tell me!” “Powerful LEADERSHIP is mastered when it doesn't involve bullying, hypocrisy or intimidation. This includes how we parent, mentor colleagues and clients and sustain any quality relationship.” “We must lead by example if we seek credibility and respect.” Cynthia Morton I am today inspired by my mentor Cynthia Morton, emotional fitness master, Australian of the Year 2005, Author and Speaker and my personal hero. She has inspired me today to write. Every day, Cynthia pumps out Daily Word Vitamins. I digest them. I love them. Gold I reckon. Today’s word vitamin on Leadership really struck a chord with me. It got me thinking about what has been modelled for ME. And then it got me thinking about what I am modelling for others …… In April this year I turn 50. Four days later, my Dad turns 76. He’s solid. Reliable. Honest. On time. Well groomed. Smart. Detail focused. Lover of roses, tomatoes and all things that can be grown on a 1/4 acre block in a Melbourne suburb. Every year I compete to grow something better than him and I lose. Yes, I’m a sore loser. In short, he’s a man of integrity. He does what he says he will do. He has modelled three ways of being that have become ingrained in me. Honesty, integrity and zero tolerance for bulltish. Three very cool lessons in leadership for anyone I reckon. Tell the truth, follow through with what you say you will do and don’t put up with any nonsense from anyone. My brother and I got up to no good as many children of the 60’s did! We always knew that we would be in more trouble if we lied. We told the truth. He was fair. He was never unreasonable. Dad was never late. When he said he would be there at 7.30 to pick me up from girl guides, he was there. Always on time. I knew I could count on him to be his word. His integrity gave me a great sense of security growing up. I’ll never forget him standing up for me when my drunken former husband insulted me in front of him. He made it very clear that he would not tolerate that behaviour. He came to me privately the next day and let me know that I was NOT to tolerate him treating me that way. Not long after, that marriage was over. Zero tolerance for bulltish. Growing up, my friends all loved my parents and many of them wanted my Dad. They didn’t have what I had. I used to say ‘have him!’ I had no idea what I had. I do now. In the last couple of years, Dad was diagnosed with Melanoma. One of six kids raised in a single-fronted house in Moonee Ponds, they spent a lot of time in the sun. I got present to the fact that he’s not going to be around forever. One evening in Peter Mac I asked him if he had any regrets. He replied with a simple ‘no’. He married the woman he wanted to marry, had 2 kids, did work he loved and was good at it, grew perfect tomatoes, beautiful roses, awesome oranges, has 3 terrific grandchildren … and his golf swing is not been too bad. Reckons he’s had a good life doing what he was good at and what he wanted to do. My Dad has never had a fast car, an overseas holiday or a gold watch. Quite frankly, he couldn’t give a stuff. He lived the life he wanted to live. There’s integrity in that. I have immense respect for my father. All this got me thinking about what I’d like to model for my 24 year old daughter …… and I’ve decided that honesty, integrity and zero tolerance for bulltish will probably do the trick! If your workplace operated with honesty, integrity and a zero tolerance for bulltish, would that cut the mustard for you?