What is it? It's sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfilment of one's hopes or expectations. My version: It's getting your hopes up and setting up for massive failure. Yesterday I got smacked down with a sledgehammer in disappointment. I wasn't ready. I was not expecting it. I made some plans. Set the action in place and I had all my ducks lined up in a row. Failure was not an option. And ..... my plan failed. My chest tightened up, I struggled to breathe. I was shattered. Utterly disappointed in myself, the system and everyone involved in the project. I became illogical, defensive, upset, judgemental and felt so alone in the world. Now I have a network of family and good friends that most people would envy. Yet I felt 'alone'. I blamed myself, made myself wrong for who I am and went on a fearless search of who to hold accountable. I sat with my hurt. I didn't like it. My preference would have been to drown it in gin and tonic. I didn't. I simply sat with it. And it hurt. By 9pm I was bloody exhausted from emotion, tears, conversation with a coach and my beloved. I was wrinkled like a prune for staying in a bubble bath too long. I did some damage with chocolate protein bars and felt sick overnight. Not the best sleep I've ever had. My coach helped me to process the disappointment. Without that objective contribution, I could have been bogged down in disappointment for days. Been there, done that. She did what a friend can never do. Friends go into sympathy or jump on the blame band wagon. Not useful. A coach gets real and gets results fast. The next morning when the alarm went off, I dragged my bones out of bed and hit the gym. The sun came up. I looked up towards the sky. I went to work and had some success. I made some more plans. I'm grateful for the experience. I have grown. I'm smart enough to know who to connect with and allow my wise ones to contribute to me. I have some resilience. Lesson learned. Big girl pants on. Forge ahead. Yep. It's a choice. We all have disappointment. Who are your trusted advisors? Do you have a person or two who will be a stand for you and short circuit your stuff so you can get on with your life? You know, the one who does not judge you and allows you to work through it? Who do you have?